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The Truth Behind Our Fear February 16, 2010

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The theme for this week is about facing our shadow self, our deepest fears so I thought I would talk a bit about what’s at the root of our fear.

What is your deepest fear? Are you afraid to die or be alone? Are you afraid of something but don’t know what it is?

Many people who suffer from panic attacks and anxiety have a general fear they can’t pinpoint (myself included). Anxiety disorders of any sort can often be traced back to childhood and/or a traumatic event. How you develop in  your mothers womb plays a vital role in how your nervous system and brain develops. If your mother was under high stress or went through something traumatic herself while she was pregnant with you, that naturally effects your own development. After you are born other factors play a role such as your environment and how you were treated.

Growing up with abuse of any kind or lack of love or a high stress environment will effect your development. This is where your self esteem, confidence, and sense of safety is nurtured. If these basic needs aren’t met, you automatically develop self defense mechanisms for protection…one of these is never feeling safe and secure, never being able to trust and this leads to anxiety.

Fear comes back to lack of trust, not trusting yourself and not trusting the universe…trust is something that’s developed in childhood. A major part in overcoming anxiety and fear is healing childhood wounds and learning to trust again.

Effective methods for managing anxiety and fears:

  • Diet and exercise–  this is obvious but often overlooked. Stimulants like caffeine, nicotine and sugar can increase anxiety
  • Meditation and yoga – both of these methods help to calm the nervous system and help you connect to your higher self, the self that is undamaged and always trusting
  • Positive thinking – this takes work, it’s hard to break a lifelong habit of negative thinking however it can be done with daily effort
  • Avoid negative people – (I call them negatrons) they will bring you down with them. It’s important to surround yourself with supportive, positive people as it will help strengthen and nurture your self esteem and outlook
  • Learn new things – stimulate your mind by learning new things each day. One good way to educate yourself is to read non-fiction about anything that interests you
  • Avoid drama – pick your battles and know when to stay out of things. A constant need for drama is a lack of focus and passion in your own life, think about what gets your juices flowing and nurture your passion

These are just a few suggestions to help you understand and overcome fear. This is a personal journey and one that will take time so be patient and loving with yourself. It’s like losing weight, it’s not enough to workout once and hope that’s enough, it takes a daily effort to get results…and just like with losing weight, you see results along the way and that keeps you motivated.